Relationship conflict resolution- an agreeable pattern for how to resolve conflict.
Steps To Help-
- It is not about who is right. It is about understanding that each of us has a different opinion or narrative on what is or what happened. This is okay, we need difference, without wanting to be right.
- Focus on the issue, not the person. When we have a difference of opinion, at times, we focus on the person therefore we raise our voices, the conversation is no longer productive and it becomes about who’s to blame. We must not take it personal, we focus on the issue and work on resolving the problem.
- Listen to understand not to reply. Again it is not about who is right it is about feeling heard, having a voice and resolving the issue. Even if you agree to disagree.
- Always use “I Statements” I can not stress this enough. When we use I statements we are taking responsibility for our own emotion rather than blaming.
- If the discussion is becoming out of control, take time out to reflect, is it coming from a place of compassion. Remember it is not about being right.
- Find a compromise and remember to listen to understand as this will help you reach a compromise that will work for both.
Relationship Conflict Resolution takes practice and remaining in the adult. If you want healthier outcomes the above steps are a step in the right direction. If you need assistance with this don’t hesitate to have a session or two to help you get on track.